Your marriage is the priority relationship in your life. So, why is your marriage the first thing to be neglected when you get busy? It is difficult to build intimacy in marriage when they are tired, cranky, and over-scheduled. Start prioritising your marriage now, and you will reap the benefits for plenty of, plenty of years to come.
Make a weekly appointment with your spouse and put it on the calendar. It is not important what you do. You may select to go out together, or hang around at home, but make sure you are alone, together. Focus on each other. Turn off the computer, the mobile phone etc. Talk, laugh, watch a movie, play a board game, use anything you need to "break the ice" and start connecting.
1) Spend time together.
2) Affirm each other.
When was the last time you gave your spouse a verbal compliment? When did you last say 'thank you'? It is so easy to take each other for granted in marriage. What do you appreciate about your partner? What attracted you to him/her in the first place? Tell each other what you love.
3) Help around the house.
Do something your partner would appreciate. Has your wife been nagging you to mow the lawn? Does your husband need the hems sewn on his pants? Would your partner love for you to cook dinner?
4) Get creative.
Buy or make your spouse something as a token of your love. It doesn't must cost a lot of funds, a small bit of work. Write a note, make a card, buy a chocolate bar, bring milkshakes home...
5) Get physically intimate.
Have you been saying "no" for long? Have you stopped asking for intimacy? Do you focus on giving your spouse physical pleasure, not receiving pleasure? Are you willing to take the time to touch, hold hands, give a back rub?
Why not get serious about investing in your marriage? Take a few weeks to give your spouse the best of you, not what you have left over. Think about the above tips and enjoy your marriage.